My biggest fear is other people’s suffering. It was the first day of processing during my Ayahuasca ceremony, realizing that all that pain I was feeling was in response to other people, but not actually other people. This gave me some control back, these were...
My father once told me that he only assumed a leadership role after he realized that “everyone else was incompetent”. Although this is obviously a generalization, I relate a lot to this sentiment – to the degree that I’m a leader, I’m a...
When I came out about my traumatic upbringing and emotional struggles as a child and teenager, I was frequently met with disbelief by many people who knew me back then. “You were always such a happy child!” and “You had the biggest smile!” How...
I have long known that I exist within a contradictory dichotomy: an attraction to both freedom and safety. (I use safety and structure interchangeably here, because to me structure creates a feeling of safety) I think others may relate to this as well, but I’ve always...
In my hypnotherapy practice, I tend to attract a certain kind of client. These clients and I share a strong propensity for laughing at the darker sides of life – finding humor in death, suffering, and absurd voices that live in our head. My sessions tend to be highly...
An issue that often goes unnoticed in the process of healing, is the loss of the many selves that we’ve built up along the way. Being legitimate victims of life’s circumstances, if we identify as such, still comes with certain benefits. For example, the...
I have been practicing caring for my inner child for many months now, focusing on providing it with the basic emotional needs I knew it needed but had never gotten. A sense of being held, of being ok, of feeling contained in compassion, of validation and safety. As I...
In the traditional corporate space, where specializing in one key area is valued, the usual resume makes sense – you clearly delineate the trajectory of how you became that world class specialist in your field, from your schooling to the jobs you’ve held....
As a hypnotherapist, I have strong opinions about therapy and it’s done. Me? Strong opinions? Yes, it’s true. I believe therapists, will all their training and compassion, are falling far short of how effective they can be. I have seen from firsthand...
It’s hard to be compassionate when you’re afraid. And charedim are afraid of everything. Of God, of change, of novelty. Growing up, a healthy dose of compassion would have gone a long way, but there was none to be found. Yiras Shomayim, fear of God, is what it was all...
