The Only Way Out is Through

We spend so much of our life avoiding discomfort. And it’s fair, because there is always a level of discomfort that is unbearable, and there were times in your life – particularly your childhood – where avoiding discomfort was the best thing you could do to survive.

However, if you ever do want to get past your shit, if you’re fed up with how you currently are, the only way out is through discomfort.

In my work with clients, this is probably the most important guiding principle. When we see a point if discomfort, we run towards it. It’s a clue to a part of ourselves that needs attention, that is not in alignment.

Paradoxically, we invite ourselves to feel the discomfort as freely as possible. We give it permission to grow as big as it needs or wants to be. We imagine the air we’re breathing in as feeding into it.

The first thing that often happens is, it gets bigger. The fear, the pain, the anger, it grows, having finally been given a say. And then, after some time, it subsides. It did what it needed to do, it expressed what needed to be stated.

The more we practice this, the more we build what I call our Emotional Pain Tolerance. And, since life is full of pain, it allows us to live life more fully, tolerating its ups and downs. It allows us to processes bigger shit, faster.

If you’re ever wondering what the best thing for you is, chances are it’s the uncomfortable option. Because the only way out is through.

Start Your Healing Journey

Book a free consultation today to learn more about Hishtalmoot and see if it’s right for you and your situation.

Read More

Single Session Therapy: The Case for Brief, Intermittent Sessions

Single Session Therapy: The Case for Brief, Intermittent Sessions

I have long known that my therapeutic approach with Hishtalmoot has been rather unconventional. I typically let clients book with me when they want, by giving them a link to my scheduling calendar. There is no assumption as to how frequently they will return to see...

Preventative Psychology

Preventative Psychology

For much of its history, psychology has focused on solving emotional problems. It started with Freud, and his hilariously cynical goal to convert his clients “from hysterical misery to common unhappiness”. Even more optimistically minded people like the jovial Carl...

The Case for Decentralized Psychology – DePsy

The Case for Decentralized Psychology – DePsy

One of my many interests in life is the world of finance. While many people’s eyes gloss over as soon the talk of money comes up, I love personal finance, economics, and understanding the complex and creative ways in which money makes the world go around.  One of the...